Unlike most people, I’ve had a specific and strategic plan for my life ever since I was about six years old. Three things that I’ve always known: I wanted to be a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., I want to be a talk show host and West Chester University was where I wanted to go to school. To provide a little context, my parents met here in undergrad and my uncle went here as well, so I’d spent a lot of time on West Chester’s campus throughout my life. I can’t even begin to put into words how excited I was when I received my acceptance letter.
I came to West Chester in the Fall of 2014 and will be leaving in just a few short days which has left me in a state of disbelief. However, I am filled with gratitude. When I first stepped foot onto this campus, I was so unsure of myself, which I couldn’t admit at the time. I had gone from the girl that everyone knew to the girl that didn’t want to be seen. I was also terrified by how fast my life was going and feared that I was not ready to be an adult. I didn’t want to be here, and I practically spent my entire first semester begging my parents to let me transfer, which they obviously did not agree to let me do.
Initially, I was dismayed by the fact that my parents wouldn’t let me transfer, but I’m happy that they didn’t because I’ve learned so much about the world, myself and people in general during my time here. Here are some things that I would like to share with each of you.
1. I know it’s cliché, but college goes by in the blink of an eye. I can’t believe I’m at the end of my journey. Savor the time you have here and make the most of it. Create memories and do what makes you happy.
2. Fitting in with the crowd may seem cool at first, but no one is remembered for blending in. You could paint the most beautiful color in the world, but most people don’t care to ask what went into making the shade, they just know it’s appealing to look at.
3. Always be authentic. I’ve found that people crave authenticity and will gravitate to you if you’re genuinely yourself. People notice when you’re not being genuine.
4. Love yourself more than anyone in the world can and know that there’s a difference between being confident and being cocky. Never let anyone tell you that you “love yourself too much,” because that’s unfounded.
5. There’s no such thing as losing: you either win, or you learn a lesson. Don’t be scared to put yourself out there. I’d rather be “rejected” by someone else, who I can choose not to be around, than to “reject” myself. Rejection is healthy.
6. It’s okay to be unsure of what’s next. In fact, it’s normal. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Breathe.
7. College is all about finesse. That needs no further explanation.
8. Make use of the resources this campus has to offer and get involved. Not only is it great for your resume, but it really helps you have a more well-rounded college experience. (See my next article if you are unsure of what those resources are.)
9. Be honest with yourself and with those around you. Anyone who agrees with you 100 percent of the time, is someone who shouldn’t be in your circle.
10. Challenge yourself to be better, but don’t compare yourself to other students. You’re running a race against yourself. What’s most important is how you define success.
11. Immerse yourself in new things. Pay attention to what others have to say and don’t be afraid to change your mind or admit that you’re wrong. College is about growth.
13. Believe in yourself first and foremost and never get in your own way. Never hesitate to take a chance. Feeling comfortable is never a good sign.
14. And lastly, never hesitate to ask for help.
During my time here, I’ve met many people and I’ve had so many experiences that I’ll never forget. West Chester has changed my life and I do not regret my decision to attend. College is where you discover parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed. It’s the time where you build relationships that will last a lifetime. I’d especially like to thank Anita Foeman, Latonya Thames Taylor, Yusuf Hayes, Dr. Thompsen, Professor Gina Castle-Bell, my line sisters (Samantha, Mikiyia, Bria Canady, Bria Sproul Brianna, and Imani) and my roommates, Carlie and Milan, for taking this journey with me. While I am sad that my time here will soon come to a close, I am ready to take on the world with all of the nuggets of wisdom that West Chester has given me. I hope that you enjoy the rest of your time here and that my words of encouragement help move you to your next level.
Thank you all for watching me grow as a writer this semester. Don’t forget the name Danaé Reid, as I am just getting started. I am officially signing off.
With love,
Danaé A. Reid, Class of 2018
Danaé Reid is a fourth-year student majoring in communication studies with a minor in African American studies. ✉ DR822867@wcupa.edu.