While Facebook has been a great social network, especially throughout college, it’s been convenient to leave a message for a friend. But all too often, it seems that Facebook users are using this internet source to conveniently convey a message to friends without directing it at someone specific. As a social network, it’s an easy way to post pictures of your life, without realizing which of your online friends are checking out your new photo updates. Make sure to not lie about what you’re doing on a Friday night if someone brings a camera. Pictures go on Facebook of the friend you were with, the party you went to, the girl’s night or guy’s night you had.
Sometimes Facebook users deliberately make ambiguous status updates to make others wonder who and what they are talking about. However, when that friend of yours is making a status about you or a friend, you just want to scream it out. But where’s the proof when no names are mentioned?
By calling the person “you,” it allows a cyber space fight to occur. When a friend makes comments such as this, other Facebook users tend to back them up by “liking” their status.
College students are worried about future employers seeing their Facebook profile and posted pictures. Shouldn’t Facebook users care more about what they post for their friends to see? Oh wait, mom’s on Facebook too?? Good thing there’s a way to delete comments. Just remember, you can’t unring a bell.
People who have seen a comment, or a picture, before it gets deleted, are free to recall it. Facebook users typically ask others if they have seen someone’s status, including their own.
When Facebook first started, statuses were used as an easy way to convey a message to other Facebook users, namely friends of yours. People like reading statuses about important updates such as what job you were hired for after college, or that you got a dog, or anything positive. Not many people want to read that you had a bad day.
Status updates that state a real life occurrence that happened will only progress the situation you are already in to a negative one. When Facebook users write specifics about the situation, it’s obvious to the person you are talking about them. Even if you didn’t mention their name. I realize that’s the point, to be deliberate about it, but what happened to confronting people face to face?
I think it’s sad to realize that comments are made deliberately in the sense, or maybe hope, that the person you are talking indirectly about will check your profile for any messages you leave for them to read.
To get over whatever the problem is, talk it out with each other. Not Facebook. Are we really a part of a generation that hides behinds our cell phones and computers? Do we argue via text, e-mail, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter? (And anything else that I didn’t mention.)
If someone comes across my status, I’d prefer for it be something interesting for them to read about me or what’s happening in my life. Even if you are fighting with your best friend, your roommate, your significant other, or whoever, talk to your friends about it. Talk to the person you are having a conflict with about the problem in order to work it out. By posting something online, you may be starting another fight.
If you’re still reading this, go to your computer and check your own Facebook status. Is it something you want people to read about if they come across it? You can always update it, but you can’t actually take away what you posted on the internet for others to see.
Ginger Rae Dunbar is a fourth year student majoring in English with a minor in journalism. She can be reached at RD655287@wcupa.edu.